If your partner shuts down or distances themselves when stressed, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. People with avoidant attachment styles often move away as a protective strategy—not to hurt you, but to keep themselves safe. Avoidant behaviour isn’t about …
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You Crave Connection, But You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners. Why?
You crave connection, but you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Why? Does this sound familiar? You crave connection, but you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Why? Here’s what might be happening beneath the surface: The good news? Awareness is the …
Why We Choose Avoidant Partners – an IFS Perspective
“It’s safer to pull back.” But: This isn’t the whole truth. It’s a protective part, trying to shield you from the potential hurt. Real healing happens when you get curious about this part, meet it with compassion, and show it …
We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective
‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with Your Avoidantly Attached Partner
The key with the avoidantly attached is to remember that when they pull back, they are often just as upset as you. It is their coping mechanism that pulls them into solitude to self-soothe. This is how they did it …
Understanding your Avoidantly Attached Partner
This is something I have learned from the inside, having been in a relationship with someone avoidant for over 22 years (married for 18). Attachment and intimacy are complex. We receive many imprints about relationships from our childhood. Often, the …
6 Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
New Article for the Readers Digest – 2 min read
How To Spot Attracting Unavailable Men
Being in a cycle of attracting avoidant or unavailable people is painful. Over time, it affects your self-esteem and can make you feel like you are going crazy. In this episode, Jen gives you three steps on how to break …
Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet ANOTHER unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Maybe he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his work, mother or …
Feel Like Whatever You Do is Wrong?
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