ttachment exists on a spectrum, with ‘secure’ in the middle. You might emerge from childhood with more anxious traits in relationships. You might enter a relationship with someone securely attached and find that you are moving on the spectrum towards …
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Hot and Cold Behaviours
Hot and cold behaviours will trigger anxiety regardless of your attachment style. If one day they are sending you flowers and the next they are not responding to a text, that’s hot and cold. If one day they invite you …
Is Noah (‘The Hot Rabbi’) Avoidant?
Here are some of my thoughts. I’d love to hear yours. Feel free to comment below. Love, Jen
The Cycle Breakers Circle
his is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
How Was Repair Done In Your Family?
Rupture and repair were not done well in my family. When I look at my grandparents, it’s easy to see why. We tend to repeat what we learn. As an adult, I had to learn to have difficult conversations and …
How Might My Past Trauma Show Up In My Current Relationship?
We all enter a new relationship with baggage. When we grow up without a model of a healthy relationship or attachment, we are kind of building from scratch. The first step is to notice the unhealthy behaviours. The second step—and …
Recording The Audio For “Healing Your Anxious Attachment”
I started the 5-day recording process today at a studio in North Sydney. After learning to speed read as a teenager, it is interesting to see how many words and letters I don’t see. My brain seems to sort them …
10 Signs You Have a Father Wound
Much of the mental health and psychology literature has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father. It could …