his is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
Tag: attachment theory
How Was Repair Done In Your Family?
Rupture and repair were not done well in my family. When I look at my grandparents, it’s easy to see why. We tend to repeat what we learn. As an adult, I had to learn to have difficult conversations and …
How Might My Past Trauma Show Up In My Current Relationship?
We all enter a new relationship with baggage. When we grow up without a model of a healthy relationship or attachment, we are kind of building from scratch. The first step is to notice the unhealthy behaviours. The second step—and …
Recording The Audio For “Healing Your Anxious Attachment”
I started the 5-day recording process today at a studio in North Sydney. After learning to speed read as a teenager, it is interesting to see how many words and letters I don’t see. My brain seems to sort them …
10 Signs You Have a Father Wound
Much of the mental health and psychology literature has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father. It could …
12 Signs You Have a Mother Wound
Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to make sense of what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about …
Is It Possible To Change My Attachment Style?
Up until age two, our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary caregiver (usually the mother), we are being wired for relationship. If …
Amanda Ferguson
Another great conversation with Dr Amanda Ferguson, someone who has traveled a similar path of healing to me. Listen to this episode to learn: Here’s the link to the podcast: Love Jen X
The Ties That Bind Us
“The Ties That Bind” delves into the heart of anxious attachment in dating, unraveling the complex emotions and behaviors that tether us in a dance of closeness and anxiety. Join us as we explore the labyrinth of need and nurture …