Do you find yourself chasing while your partner pulls away? Or perhaps you’re the one retreating when emotions feel overwhelming? This pattern—the Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle—is one of the most common relationship dynamics keeping couples stuck and disconnected. Healing begins with awareness. …
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Why Avoidant Partners Pull Away
If your partner shuts down or distances themselves when stressed, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. People with avoidant attachment styles often move away as a protective strategy—not to hurt you, but to keep themselves safe. Avoidant behaviour isn’t about …
We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective
‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
Why You Feel So Anxious After a Fight
This is where therapy can be life-changing.Check out Episode 39 of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast: Understanding and Healing Protest Behaviors Through an IFS Lens.Listen here: Enjoy, and let me know what you think in the comments.Love, Jen
Apology in the Family
“As a therapist, I’ve noticed that people who grew up in families where no one apologized after disagreements and just let time pass often carry that experience into adulthood in unexpected ways. When conflict is ignored instead of addressed, it …
What Is Insecure Attachment?
Attachment patterns are patterns of love. They ask if we can trust others to love us in the way we need. If you want to know more, check out my highlight ‘ATTACHMENT’. Love, Jen
What is Insecure Attachment?
Healing insecure attachment is a journey, but it’s possible with support. So much love on your healing journey, Jen
About Co-regulation from a Ten Year Old
Oh, my heart! I just can’t stop watching. She’s 14 now, and I can’t believe how smart, funny and beautiful she was and still is. I’m one lucky mum!