When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
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The Dance of the Anxious and Avoidant in Conflict
This is the pursuer/withdrawer dynamic identified by Dr Sue Johnson in her brilliant book “Hold Me Tight”. It is the dance of the anxious (pursuer) and the avoidant (withdrawer). I know this dance well because it is one my husband …