If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you likely became hyper-aware of small shifts—watching for any sign that might trigger a reaction. You learned to do things perfectly to avoid being yelled at or punished, picking up on subtle changes in facial expressions and tone of voice to stay safe.
That same vigilance follows you into adulthood. Deep inside, a part of you—the inner child—remains on guard, fearing abandonment or hurt. Even in safe moments, this part keeps watch, making you highly sensitive to your partner’s moods. You might find yourself:
- Assuming their mood is your fault
- Trying to “fix” it
- Performing to keep them happy
- Feeling overwhelmed with anxiety
These are common signs of an insecure attachment style, but they are not permanent. With time and the right tools, you can rewire these patterns. I teach you how in my Heal Your Anxious Attachment course, an eight-week deep dive into healing anxious attachment and creating a secure relationship. Launching soon!
If attachment anxiety resonates with you, let me know in the comments. 
Love, Jen
