Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical harm or threats, door slamming, and shouting.
When this is how we learn to do conflict, we often repeat this as adults. Maybe to a lesser degree, but we still find ourselves flooded and dysregulated.
How would it be to flip this on its head completely? What if conflict could become a powerful avenue for your healing as a couple? What if you would take these moments to hear each other, take the time to understand the pain coming up and be in that pain with each other? Without having to fix it or pretend it’s not there. If you could just hold space and be together with the pain?
Love Jen
