From my years of working on myself and with my clients, I have come to understand feelings as messengers. I often see them as little children, desperately wanting and needing something from me—the bigger the feeling, the stronger the message. …
Category: Wellness
What is Attachment Anxiety?
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
Anxiety Has Physical Symptoms
If you have suffered from anxiety, you will know that anxiety is NOT only in your head. You might feel worried or nervous about mundane events and find it interferes with your day-to-day life. Anxiety can cause a range of …
How to Stop Catastrophising
I grew up with anxiety around me. It was in the air, in the voices of the adults around me. I know anxiety well. Anxiety still visits me when I have an interview, when I have to do a video …
Reversing The Cycle of Anxiety
At its core, anxiety is worrying about something that MIGHT happen. We scan the environment for threats and gauge ourselves to see if we will be able to cope with the threat. When you feel your anxiety, you decide that …
Anxiety or Anxiety Disorder?
You might not know that there is a big difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder. Most of us will experience anxiety on and off, but how do you know when anxiety has become a real problem for you? Anxiety …
Where Is My Attention Going?
How do we put our attention outside of ourselves? Over worrying about what other people think Over focusing on other people’s behaviour Over focus on work Watching too much TV Getting too involved in other people’s dramas When all of …
The Power of ‘Parts’ Work
Parts work is used in MANY research-based psychotherapeutic modalities; EMDR, Schema Therapy, IFS (Internal Family Systems), Transactional Analysis, Gestalt, Narrative Therapy, and more. It is used in so many modalities because it works. I find that it creates a distance …
Acting Out
When you feel yourself about to ‘act out’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you. Can you think, “wow! I am feeling so much anger …
The Difference Between A One-Off Trauma and Complex Trauma.
There is a huge difference between a one-off, shock trauma and complex trauma. In this panel interview, I explain the differences using a personal experience with shock trauma. This panel interview was one of a three-part series exploring trauma for …