Deep Pain Doesn’t Leave All at Once — It Softens in Layers

What I see, again and again in therapy, is that deep pain doesn’t leave all at once.

It softens in layers.

You return to it, but each time from a different place. A different level of the spiral.

One session might explore your father’s role in what happened. Another might sit with the feeling of having no one reliable there for you.

It can feel like you’re going backwards. Like you should be “over it” by now.

But this is how healing actually works.

Each return brings more understanding. More compassion. More capacity to stay with what once felt unbearable.

And then one day, something shifts.

You think about it…and your body is different.

No tight chest. No sick feeling in your stomach.

Just a quiet sense of space. Of being freer.

Love, Jen 🪷

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