All of these fears come from somewhere.
Fear of abandonment: When do you remember people not being there for you the way you needed them to be?
Fear of not being good enough: Where did you learn that your needs are less important than those of the people around you? When were you not shown the love you needed?
Fear of love being conditional: When did you experience love being withdrawn? How was that experience for you?
These are things to consider, not to blame or shame the people who raised you, but to make sense of your fears.
Many people with anxious attachment think, “Why am I like this? I don’t make sense.”
You do make sense.
Big love, Jen
