The four communication styles that have a negative impact on your relationships according to the Gottmans: Everyone will have a favoured method. Mine is defensiveness. Defensiveness is a response to criticism and tends to increase conflict because the other person …
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Tips For The 5 Relationship Stages
As a couple therapist, I see people repeatedly move through all of these stages. If you do this well, you build an increasingly solid foundation for your relationship. Sometimes, however, we get stuck in the struggle and repair phase, especially …
Responsiveness Is a Love Language
When our partners are not responsive, it can feel like we are playing tennis with no one hitting the ball back. It quickly gets lonely. If this is happening in your relationship, now is the time to get curious about …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Consistency – Here are 4 tips
Feel free to share this with your partner! Wow – the power of consistency with an anxiously attached person. It is like drinking a cool glass of water on a hot day – soothing, grounding, and nourishing from the inside. …
5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with Your Avoidantly Attached Partner
The key with the avoidantly attached is to remember that when they pull back, they are often just as upset as you. It is their coping mechanism that pulls them into solitude to self-soothe. This is how they did it …
A Tip For Arguments
When we build up resentments in a relationship it is common that they will come pouring out in the midst of an argument. You start with a complaint about how they leave their clothes on the floor, they become defensive, …
What is YOUR Primary Love Language?
A few people have asked me how to discover their primary love language. A lot of people read through the list and think “I love ALL of those!”, why do I just need to choose one or two? In a …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Reassurance
Feel free to share this with your partner! You are allowed to ask for reassurance – reassurance = safety. The most important thing about reassurance is that it is congruent and truthful. If you feel unsure about the relationship, it …