With time and focus, you CAN widen your window of tolerance. The key is being able to confront strong emotions without becoming so overwhelmed that they cannot be integrated. The safest way to do this is with the help of …
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Explaining the Window of Tolerance
Have you ever heard about the “Window of Tolerance”? Coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, it refers to the optimal zone where we handle life’s ups and downs most effectively. Inside this window, you can regulate your emotions smoothly, stay centered, …
Why Do I Have Another Avoidant Partner?
“You’re probably reading this because you are frustrated at yourself for choosing another unavailable partner—emotionally, locationally, or otherwise. Whatever the situation, here you are again with yet, wondering if it is you or just bad luck. People with an anxious …
New Research Shows: Optimism Boosts Longevity
Fascinating new findings in the realm of longevity! “Optimism is Associated with Exceptional Longevity in Two Cohorts of Men and Women,” published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, highlights the powerful link between a positive outlook and …
Believe Actions, Not Words
Notice patterns of behaviour. They will tell you a lot about a person. Agree?
Emotional Neglect
Emotional neglect is sometimes normalised in families. It might have been in the name of being ‘rational’, ‘successful’, ‘wealthy’, ‘busy’, or not ‘spoiling’ the children. Often, the parents have not been taught the language of emotional attunement. They are simply …
How Trauma Affects the Brain
Trauma affects the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex, amygdala and hippocampus. Ongoing trauma is associated with “lasting change in these brain areas” (Bremmer, 2006). When there is a potential threat, the amygdala sends an instant message to the hippocampus, activating …
What is developmental Trauma?
As children, we need a safe environment and loving caregivers so our brains develop in the way they are meant to. If that is missing, parts of the lower brain do not develop in the way they need to, and …
