Deep listening involves: Imagining your partners world – Stepping into their shoes Hearing your partner – you don’t have to agree with what they are saying but take a moment to really HEAR them in a new way. Seeing the …
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How do we Stop Arguing About the Same Thing?
Have you found yourself in relationship arguing about the same thing over and over with no outcome? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Research has found that 69% of couples’ areas of disagreement are about UNRESOLVABLE problems. …
Instead of Threatening and Demanding, Answer These Questions
WHAT HAPPENED? Make this factual – e.g. He spoke to his ex-girlfriend last week. WHAT FEELINGS DO I HAVE ABOUT THIS? – This is not thoughts, but feelings (look up a feelings list if you want to get a clear …
Communicating Your Needs
But how do I ask for what I need? The most important part is KNOWING what you need. Often, we are not really clear what our needs are, they get mixed up in the jumble of what we DON’T want. …
Healing Old Communication Styles
Healing old communication styles where we play games, push our partner away and DON’T get what we want. Here are some situations, some old communication styles, that don’t work, and some new ways to communicate to help get your needs …
Communicating Needs
Once we know what we need, how do we communicate? We have learned that our needs are not important and, in some cases, that the needs of the parent are bigger and more important than our needs. So, once we …
Courageous Dialogue – be a “Front Stabber”
I have just finished a class on the theme of speaking our truth with love. We did the class based on a blog by Karen Salmansohn, which can be seen here. In it she terms the phrase a “front stabber”, …