IS THIS THE REASON YOU STRUGGLE IN YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS? As children, we are like sponges. Our brain grows to 80% of its adult size by the time we are two! At times the neurons are growing at a rate …
Tag: attachment theory
Is Modern Child-Rearing Dysfunctional?
What do you think about this? I’m curious to know. I came across this when I was studying for my Master’s Degree. I was drawn to it because I see these symptoms all the time in my clinic and have …
10 Signs You Have A Father Wound
Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …
12 Signs You Have A Mother Wound
Many of us spend years in confusion, anger and grief about the mother relationship, trying to make sense of what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about …
I Can’t Change My Attachment Style, Can I?
Up until the age of two, our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary caregiver (usually the mother), we are being wired for …
Is Your Attachment Style Affecting Your Relationships?
Your attachment style influences all of your intimate relationships. Knowing if you are secure or insecure in your attachment can help you to understand some of your behaviour when you are in relationships. Know that your attachment style CAN be …
Dating Boundaries
Dating boundaries are important because they reflect the kinds of boundaries we have in other parts of our lives. If our boundaries are non-existent in the beginning, it can be challenging to re-instate them later on. Dating boundaries can be …
What are Core Childhood Needs?
When core needs go unmet, unhealthy coping mechanisms result. This is natural, because a child needs to keep themselves safe and over time, learns how to get their needs met, however they can. For many people, having needs at all …
Identifying Your Needs If You Are Avoidantly Attached
Have you ever marvelled at how some people seem to know exactly what they need in any given moment? Do you often feel numb and have no idea? This is one of the traits of the avoidantly attached. The avoidantly …
What does it feel like to be the secure home base for my clients?
“For me there is a sense of strong love flowing towards the person in pain. In my head and my whole being I am ALLOWING. I am not saying, it is enough now, or this needs to stop, or you …