To be a cycle breaker there has to be a certain kind of waking up to the dysfunctional family patterns. This usually happens over a period of time, but it can also happen overnight, leaving you feeling completely disoriented and like you have just woken up from a dream.
When you become a cycle breaker, you have listened to your inner knowing that something is out of alignment with who you are, with your values, and for yourself, and you have decided to not do that thing. Some of these decisions go unnoticed by your family, they are subtle shifts that only you notice.
For example, you might notice a lot of gossiping in your family and community and decide that is not something you want to participate in. Rather than lecture the family, you simply leave those conversations or change the subject.
My experience of being a cycle breaker is that it was a calling. As I got older and understood more and more about the world, I simply wanted different things for myself than my family had ever wanted. I felt excited at the prospect of studying. I loved to travel, I loved adventure and taking risks, they all made me feel alive. This is where being a cycle breaker is a calling. If we ignore the call of our true selves the spirit withers, over time, we become depressed and lethargic. If we end up living someone else’s life with no excitement and authenticity we betray ourselves at the deepest level.
I felt called to study and travel and later to teach. I am writing this content because I feel an inner calling to do it. If you are wondering where your ‘calling’ is, ask yourself where the juice is for you. What makes you light up? It might be fixing cars, painting, gardening or going on adventures. What it is, doesn’t matter, just do some of it whenever you can. It will feed your soul.
I have found inner child work to be incredibly beneficial in my #healingjourney, if you would like to meet your inner child head to my home page and click “Inner Child Healing Meditation”.
To all the cycle breakers out there – know you are healing society one family at a time.