In EFT, the therapist acts as the secure attachment figure for both people in the relationship and role models compassionate listening until the couple feels safe enough to use each other as that secure home base.
The therapist guides each person in the couple to understand their role in negative cycles. Compassion is injected into both people’s reactive behaviours. Most behaviour makes sense when we understand our partner’s history.
Therapy is not for the faint-hearted. It takes courage to look within, to own our part in a relationship, to see ourselves with understanding, and to start creating positive cycles.
It is possible to create positive cycles.
