We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict.
You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and then decide that that cycle stops with you.
Some cycles are easy to break. For example, you might have been raised by parents who smacked you when you misbehaved to reprimand you. You might decide not to repeat that pattern and break that cycle in your family.
Some cycles are more difficult to break, especially socio-economic cycles. I find people like Michelle Obama incredibly inspiring when I think about breaking socio-economic barriers. It might be difficult, but it is possible.
Relational cycles in families can be the most challenging cycles to break because you come up against what might feel like ‘the establishment’ when trying to break them. With the example above, the rebellion is to heal your attachment wound and be a more attuned, loving mother than your mother was able to be for you.
When we have an ingrained ‘avoidant’ attachment style, how do we do this?
We will be covering this and more in my upcoming course, ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. If you would like to ensure yourself a spot, click here to sign up.
I hope to see you there,
Love, Jen
