We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict.
You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and then decide that that cycle stops with you.
Some cycles are easy to break. For example, you might have been raised by parents who smacked you when you misbehaved as a way of reprimanding you. You might decide to not repeat that pattern in your family and break that cycle.
Some cycles are more difficult to break, especially when they are socio-economic cycles. I find people like Michelle Obama incredibly inspiring when I think about breaking socio-economic barriers. It might be difficult, but it is possible.
Relational cycles in families can be the most challenging cycles to break because you come up against what might feel like ‘the establishment’ when trying to break them. With the example above, the rebellion is to heal your attachment wound and be a more attuned, loving mother than your mother was able to be for you.
How do we do this when we have an ingrained ‘avoidant’ attachment style?
This is covered in my course, ‘ Relationship Cycle Breaker’ – head to my website.