There is so much that our parents didn’t know about life and were simply unable to teach us. Therapy provides a space to learn tools to help with the mini trauma’s life throws at us. When we have experienced trauma …
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You don’t need to be in crisis to see a therapist
It is a myth that you need to be in crisis to see a therapist. You might decide to work with a therapist when: You see yourself repeating old patterns You get triggered by your family You want to be …
Signs Therapy Could be Useful
It is time to end the stigma of mental health and get support when you need it. You deserve to be supported wherever you are at. As humans we are social creatures. We were never meant to have it all …
Personality Disorders Don’t Emerge Out Of Thin Air – In More Cases Than Not, There Is A Complex Trauma History.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) has “come to be understood as a posttraumatic adaptation to severe childhood abuse and attachment trauma” (Courtoise, 2004). As children in an unsafe environment, it is NORMAL to adapt to that environment to stay safe. That …
Shame Is The Fear Of Disconnection
Shame is a painful emotion that is created because of a sense of failure to meet a certain standard. It sounds like: “I’m a failure, I’m a terrible person, I’m useless”. They are absolute statements about the self that make …
Mental Illness Is The Result Of Normal Adaptations To Unhealthy Situations
Knowing that mental illness is the result of normal adaptations to unhealthy situations became clear to me when I read “The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog” by Dr. Bruce Perry. Trigger warning for this book – it does …
Lucia Quote
Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, they see something new and they want to …
How Does the Father Wound Show Up?
The father wound is a wound that is passed down family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds, which created feelings of unworthiness within. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All …
Trauma Integration For Children
Dealing with traumatic re-enactments. This one really stood out for me.Let’s think about it. An example:I grew up in a home where there was a lot of instability, shouting and violence. This is all I have known. In order to …
What is Developmental Trauma?
As children our brain develops from the bottom up, starting with the reptilian brain where survival and reproduction are paramount and moving upwards towards the neocortex, responsible for logical thought. As children we a need safe environment and loving caregivers …