Pause – When you feel yourself about to ‘act out,’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you? Can you think? I am feeling so much …
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How To Decrease Hyperarousal
Feeling hyperaroused can mean being overwhelmed with energy, manifesting as anxiety, panic, or the urge to flee—classic signs of your body kicking into fight or flight mode. This state makes relaxation challenging, affecting sleep and digestion. 💡 Here’s a tip …
Signs of Hyperarousal
Most of the time, our lives unfold within a safe range of arousal—a state where we can function well, regulate our emotions, feel grounded, and stay mentally present. As we encounter daily challenges, our arousal levels fluctuate, sometimes feeling like …
Expanding Your Window of Tolerance
With time and focus, you CAN widen your window of tolerance. The key is being able to confront strong emotions without becoming so overwhelmed that they cannot be integrated. The safest way to do this is with the help of …
Explaining the Window of Tolerance
Have you ever heard about the “Window of Tolerance”? Coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, it refers to the optimal zone where we handle life’s ups and downs most effectively. Inside this window, you can regulate your emotions smoothly, stay centered, …
Emotional Neglect
Emotional neglect is sometimes normalised in families. It might have been in the name of being ‘rational’, ‘successful’, ‘wealthy’, ‘busy’, or not ‘spoiling’ the children. Often, the parents have not been taught the language of emotional attunement. They are simply …
How Trauma Affects the Brain
Trauma affects the brain, especially the prefrontal cortex, amygdala and hippocampus. Ongoing trauma is associated with “lasting change in these brain areas” (Bremmer, 2006). When there is a potential threat, the amygdala sends an instant message to the hippocampus, activating …
What is developmental Trauma?
As children, we need a safe environment and loving caregivers so our brains develop in the way they are meant to. If that is missing, parts of the lower brain do not develop in the way they need to, and …
Is Noah (‘The Hot Rabbi’) Avoidant?
Here are some of my thoughts. I’d love to hear yours. Feel free to comment below. Love, Jen