Sometimes, the whole family needs a rest and reset. Before leaving for Bali, we each shared what we wanted to experience on this holiday. ‘Rest’ was one word that we all said and was a key theme of our holiday. …
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How to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’
A cycle breaker in a family is someone who consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living, and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think …
How to Create Distance In A Family Relationship
It’s okay to need more space in a family relationship. Let me say it again – It’s okay to need more space in a relationship. When you have grown up taking care of others emotionally or being afraid of their …
How To Be Assertive
Unless you have grown up with healthy role modelling around assertiveness, it is likely this is something you struggle with. I have learnt to be assertive slowly. It was not role modelled for me. I still flip into aggressive (my …
The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 6 Self-Care
When I talk about self-care with my clients I like to start with the basics. Are you getting enough sleep? How much is enough sleep? Everyone is different, but I do believe there is a minimum requirement for most people. …
The Art of Re-Parenting Part 5 Self-Discipline
Self-discipline is learnt. We learn it as children as we are guided to do our homework before watching the TV, we learn acceptable ways to speak to our family even when we are angry, we learn how much of the …
The Art Of Re-Parenting – Part 4
The inner child needs to be validated. They need to have THEIR version of reality validated by you.If your inner child has been told for years that she is ‘too sensitive’ to all the fighting that went on in the …
How to start building self-trust
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
How to Develop a Strong Sense of Self
Discovering who we are and what our values are takes time and is an ever-evolving phenomenon. It is even harder in a culture where there are strong ideas about what we ‘should’ value, what we ‘should’ aspire to, even what …
Valid Needs
Knowing our needs can be difficult when we have been taught that our needs are not important or should be placed after everyone else’s needs. This is a type of trauma. We are being separated from our most basic instinct, …