Tag: healthy relationship

You don't have to be fully healed to have a fulfilling relationship. You just need a commitment to learn how to be a better person and partner - we can all grow in a relationship. At their highest expression, that’s what they are for.

You Don’t Have to be Fully Healed to Have a Fulfilling Relationship

March 9, 2024

Healing isn’t a prerequisite for love; it’s a journey you embark on together.  You don’t have to be fully healed to find or nurture a fulfilling relationship. What matters is the commitment to grow, to learn, and to evolve as …

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Secure base in a relationship

The Couple Bubble as the Secure Home Base

April 15, 2022

What’s your experience of being in a ‘couple bubble’? Let me know in the comments. Love, Jen

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5 Ways to Support Your Anxiously Attached Partner When your partner is anxiously attached, there are a few things you can do to support them. The first is being consistent. Anxiously attached people will appreciate consistency, especially fi they have grown up in an erratic environment. The second thing that is helpful is reassurance. Verbally letting them know how you feel about them and that you are committed, if you are committed to the relationship. Thirdly, take the time to express gratitude. Anxiously attached people might find it difficult to see their own beauty and worth. When you share gratitude, they often feel your love. Trying to be responsive. So replying to texts and calls as best you can. And lastly, staying close after conflict. Working out ways to stay connected during and after conflict is super helpful.

5 Ways to Support Your Anxiously Attached Partner

February 27, 2022

Learn more about attahcment styles and how they play out in relationships

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And know when a friend asks you how your’re doing and you decide to be completely honest, you tell them how hard things have been recently and they receive what you’re saying with genuine attention and care - that’s the type of friend that really makes a difference in your life. Yung Pueblo

A Beautiful Quote from Yung Pueblo

November 17, 2021

Friendship is standing side-by-side and weathering the storm.

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A Great Friendship A great friendship allows us to be ourselves. We don’t have to pretend to be anything we are not. A great friendship holds us in moments of despair. We don’t have to hide. A great friendship holds our vulnerability tenderly. We are safe. A great friendship bubbles with laughter and joy. We look for the lightness in life and each other. A great friendship lasts forever. We are connected through our hearts.

A Great Friendship

November 17, 2021

A great friendship is a gift.  It is finding the people who resonate with us.  Who seem to understand who we are. If you are looking for YOUR people, don’t give up. With 7.7 billion people in the world – …

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Mother and son hugging - connection

Connection

October 27, 2021

How do you let your children know you love them? I ask! I ask if they feel loved. I say, “if you were to feel a little bit more loved by me today, what would happen, or what would I …

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How the Flight Trauma Response Can Show Up In An Argument You want to leave the room and RUN. You might make yourself stay, but every part of you is screaming to get away. You might start fantasising about leaving the relationship and even threaten to leave the relationship. You find yourself looking for an escape route, and your eyes start to dart around. You stop listening to your partner because your sympathetic nervous system has taken over, and the thinking brain has switched off. Your mind is racing. Thoughts don’t seem to be connected logically. You feel jumpy. When they move their hand, you think they are going to lash out at you. In the moment, you are not aware of your body.

How the Flight Trauma Response Can Show Up In An Argument

October 12, 2021

When we are in conflict, it is easy to be triggered into an automatic trauma response.  Why? Maybe our partner is triggering a flashback to an old situation Maybe their tone of voice feels threatening Maybe the way they gestured …

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Boundaries are a love language. You can be deeply connected to your heart and still be in your power when setting a boundary. Sometimes boundaries emerge from a deep sense of profound love for both you and the other person. You just can’t carry on in the way you have been. Something needs to change. Boundaries are hard if we have been taught that boundaries mean we don’t love each other. Remember, boundaries are a love language.

Boundaries Are A Love Language

September 27, 2021

When we have grown up with few boundaries and been taught that boundaries are selfish, it can be challenging to put them in place as an adult. It can be challenging to know what is appropriate, what you need, and …

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Relationships are a Co-creation. Love, desire, connection—all of the things that make us want to stay and go deeper with someone—are not induced by that other person. They are co-created. Instead of asking whether we’ve found the right person, imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship in which both partners are mutually interested in being good for each other. Ester Perel

Relationships are a Co-creation.

September 27, 2021

It is a fairytale to expect that love, desire and connection will be provided by our partner all of the time. That they will be able and willing to attend to us all of the time, to attune to us …

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What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?

What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?

September 10, 2021

Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common.  When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …

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