We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and …
Tag: healing journey
The Cycle Breaker’s Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then, we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
Conflict and Connection
Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …
Feeling The Same Pain Again
Running from the pain won’t stop the pattern from repeating itself. Your subconscious is trying desperately to heal; it presents you with situation after situation until you pause and get curious. Not in a self-punishing way but in a compassionate, …
How to Reconnect After An Argument
We all know those uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument's energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
Healing Dissociation Part 2
Healing Dissociation Part 2 Dissociation is often a misunderstood and feared part of the system. Healing in a system with a big dissociated part means that we need to start with safety. Your life needs a foundation of current safety …
Episode 35: Unlocking Relationship Patterns
the pursuer-withdrawer pattern in relationships, a dynamic that can significantly impact relationship satisfaction and longevity. Dr. Ferguson shares her journey into psychology and hypnotherapy, offering deep insights into how these modalities can aid in self-discovery and healing.
Healing Dissociation Part 1
I like to think of dissociation like a firefighter. When an internal alarm signals danger, the firefighter wakes up, puts on its firefighting gear, rushes to the rescue, and does what it knows how to do: dissociate. In therapy, we …
Dissociation pt 9: How We Protect Our Selves
Exploring how we protect ourselves in the face of overwhelming or scary situations is essential. Naturally, we might react by freezing, fleeing, fighting, submitting, or seeking attachment.
Dissociation pt 8; Resuming Normal Life
Resuming normal life post-trauma can be a vital step in healing, grounding us back in our daily routines and connections. However, when trauma is ongoing or deeply distressing, our psyche might create a protective layer, telling us, "It wasn't that …