As a therapist, it is my job to be deeply attuned to my client, notice when someone is becoming distressed, and assist them in returning to their window of tolerance.I like to think of it as good mothering because it …
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I’m Anxious, and My partner is Avoidantly Attached. Will it Ever Work?
The opportunity here is for deep healing for both of you. The risk is the reenactment of the original wounds that created your attachment style in the first place. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if you are serious about …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Responsiveness
Responsiveness is a subtle form of communication and is a love language. When you respond to me reaching out for connection, the connection is validated, and I feel SAFE. It might be the smile you give me, in response to …
The Power of Gratitude for the Anxiously Attached – 3 tips
The trick for the anxiously attached person is to let the gratitude in. And that’s a journey. When our life has shown us that we are not valued, noticed, and treasured, it can be difficult to let genuine gratitude and …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Consistency
Wow – the power of consistency with an anxiously attached person. It is like drinking a cool glass of water on a hot day – soothing, grounding, nourishing from the inside. The balance here is asking for the consistency that …
We Self-Abandon When We:
Learning to stop self-abandoning happens in the small, silent moments that often nobody else knows about. Learning to listen to ourselves differently. I have found inner child, parts and somatic work to be the most powerful to navigate this pattern …
Abandonment To Self-Abandonment
We might call this people-pleasing, but for me, this is deeper. This happens in the small but powerful moments when we: Concede in an argument because we feel them pulling away. Have sex, but our body doesn’t feel like it, …
Seeking Others to Regulate Us.
The opportunity here is to give the younger self the soothing she so desperately wanted and deserved. I have been doing Inner Child and ‘parts’ work for over 17 years with myself and others and found it to be one …
When we Have Experienced Abandonment as a Child, We Might be Quick to Attach
I invite you to notice this desire to attach too quickly with compassion. Talk to the younger part of you who craves love, affection and attention. She is calling you through time and space to attend to her. Remember that …