We all have a story surrounding our relationship with feelings. We might have learnt that feelings are dangerous if we grew up with dysregulated parents or that feelings are shameful if we grew up with parents who were disconnected from …
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Been Ghosted? Here’s Some Help
Follow @psychotherapy.central for more tips on how to do your inner work and form healthier, lasting relationships. With this practice, we can swap the word ‘ghosted’ for ‘triggered’. It is natural to feel triggered when you have been ghosted. Most …
Reconnecting with your Feelings for the Avoidantly Attached
When you have the avoidant adaptation, you likely grew up in an environment where it was not okay to have needs or your needs were denied, so you shut them down. As an adult, you may judge yourself as weak …
Reconnecting with your Needs for the Avoidantly Attached
For the avoidant adaptation, reconnecting with your needs, body, and emotions is part of your healing journey. There are many ways to begin to reconnect to the body. Two of the most potent ways I use with my clients are …
Self-Validation
As a child, we look to our parents for validation about ourselves and the world around us. When we don’t receive that validation, it can be incredibly detrimental to our mental health as adults. It might sound like, “I heard …
Mixed Feelings
It is normal to have mixed feelings about people we are in a relationship with. When we are in black and white thinking, it might be challenging to accept that we have different feelings about the same person. When we …
Do I Feel Too Much?
We all have a story surrounding our relationship with feelings. We might have learnt that feelings are dangerous if we grew up with dysregulated parents or that feelings are shameful if we grew up with parents who were disconnected from …
Being Overly Sensitive to Your Partner’s Moods.
If you grew up in an emotionally unstable environment, you would have learned to watch for any little thing that might set them off. You learn to do things perfectly to avoid being shouted at or punished. You learn to …
Acting Out
When you feel yourself about to ‘act out’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you. Can you think, “wow! I am feeling so much anger …
Is It Normal To Feel Anxious If I haven’t Heard From Them?
I just want to let you know that if you haven’t heard from him in 4 days, you are right to feel anxious! That’s a long time. Securely attached people will also find that odd. Even at the beginning of …