Self-Care as a Therapist

Some self-care rituals that are part of my life:

  • I meditate for 20 minutes every day. I use a mantra that a teacher in India gave me
  • I exercise for around 45 minutes at least three times a week
  • I see a maximum of 16 clients a week. This keeps me fresh and attuned
  • As I am in private practice, I control my diary and take frequent holidays
  • My children and my marriage are my priority, so I make sure they get some of the best of me
  • I make time to be with my kids, family and friends

A word about protecting myself as a therapist:

Because my self-care is robust, I don’t feel I need to protect myself from my clients

When clients come in with heavy emotions, it is safe for me to step into what is present with them

If I find myself thinking about a client afterwards:

  • I check in with my body – what is my body holding?
  • I give my body what it needs.
  • I check in with my mind – has some of my stuff been triggered by the content that has been shared?

If yes, I attend to that part of myself.

When we are in our darkest places, we need someone to step in with us, metaphorically hold our hand, and walk into a different space.

Sometimes, our friends and family cannot hold us in the way we need and walk next to us.

This is the role of the healer – the therapist.