This video is in response to a lot of questions I get about recognising securely attached people.
First, it IS challenging to recognise secure people when you have grown up in chaos. There is no template for what secure and safe people sound, behave and feel like.
Remember that safety is something that happens incrementally in relationships. It is the small things first. Do they turn up on time? Do they keep their word? Do they share what is really going on for them? What happens when I feel down? What happens when I ask for help?
Trust and safety happen over time, be mindful of rushing into a new relationship without allowing time for this trust to build. It can be a short and painful ride.
I hope you find these tips helpful moving forward.
So much love to you all,
Jen