As a couple counsellor and wife of 18 years, I know that intimacy doesn’t just happen. It has to be cultivated. There are so many different ways to let your partner know that they are special, that you are thinking …
Category: Relationships
Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics
There are 53 million Americans who are caregivers; 89% care for a relative or partner, with women representing 75% of all caregivers. A common dilemma sounds something like this, ‘my mum was abusive to me. Yes, we had a roof …
Tips For The 5 Relationship Stages
As a couple therapist, I see people repeatedly move through all of these stages. If you do this well, you build an increasingly solid foundation for your relationship. Sometimes, however, we get stuck in the struggle and repair phase, especially …
How Do You Know When To Let Go of a Relationship?
Have you ever experienced the confusion and struggle of not knowing whether you should stay or leave a relationship? The part that wants to stay might see the good in your partner or be afraid of being alone or scared …
Woman’s Day, Kindred Spirit
“Have you ever met someone who mirrors all the good things you like about yourself: the same values, interests, thoughts, or feelings? You instantly hit it off, becoming best of friends. If so, you may have met your kindred spirit. …
3 Fears of the Anxiously Attached
All of these fears come from somewhere. Fear of abandonment: When do you remember people not being there for you the way you needed them to be? Fear of not being good enough: Where did you learn that your needs …
3 Fears of the Anxiously Attached
Remember that anxious attachment is a strategy you have learnt to maintain closeness with your special person. These fears can all be addressed by building internal and external secure attachment.
Common Mistakes when Anxiously Attached
Many individuals with anxious attachment mistakenly equate the rollercoaster of intense emotional highs and lows with the depth and intensity of love, perceiving these turbulent experiences as signs of a passionate relationship. This confusion can lead to a blurred line …
The Mindset of Secure Attachment
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You Are Important
As a trauma therapist, I’ve heard numerous stories about the messages people received in childhood that made them feel unimportant. Whether it was a sibling who demanded all of your parents’ time and energy, leaving little for you, or parents …