đź’¬ “When couples fight, it’s not just about dishes or who said what. It’s about disconnection—and the longing to feel safe, loved, and understood again.” In this podcast, I explore how Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) uses attachment science to …
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Secure Relationships and Conflict
Like many of us, I was raised to fear conflict or avoid it altogether. It took me years to learn and embody that conflict is an opportunity for connection, growth, and healing. It’s not about never arguing—it’s about how you …
Secure Attachment is Built in Small, Repeated Moments
It’s not the grand gestures. It’s the everyday moments. Secure attachment is built in the small things—how we listen, how we respond, how we repair. It’s a felt sense of emotional safety.Of being seen, heard, and cared for.And offering that …
Attachment Injuries with Dr Clare Rosoman
Last week, on the Psychotherapy Central podcast, I spoke with Dr Clare Rosoman about attachment injuries and just how wide-ranging they can be, and how they disrupt fundamental questions of emotional safety and trust. We then review the Attachment Injury …
Repairing Attachment Injuries in Close Relationships_Dr Clare Rosoman
I just loved this conversation with Clare about her incredible new book. I’ve personally had the most amazing experience in EFT couple therapy with my husband of 19 years. In this episode, I talk about an attachment injury that we …
Conscious Leadership
This was the most downloaded episode of the podcast last year! This means that you are interested in leadership and how to lead better. When you think about it, most of us are leaders somewhere, whether training someone at work …
My Podcast is Ranked No. 3 on Apple
So many great episodes…ranking as number 3 on Apple Podcasts under Psychotherapy, there are so many episodes, which is your favourite?
The Hidden Avoidant Part in Anxious Attachment
Most people don’t realise this about anxious attachment: There’s usually an avoidant part underneath. Healing means recognising both the anxious part that chases and the avoidant part that retreats. Through parts work (IFS), you can bring self-compassion to these conflicting …
Why Avoidant Partners Pull Away
If your partner shuts down or distances themselves when stressed, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. People with avoidant attachment styles often move away as a protective strategy—not to hurt you, but to keep themselves safe. Avoidant behaviour isn’t about …
You Crave Connection, But You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners. Why?Â
You crave connection, but you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Why? Does this sound familiar? You crave connection, but you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Why? Here’s what might be happening beneath the surface: The good news? Awareness is the …