ttachment exists on a spectrum, with ‘secure’ in the middle.
You might emerge from childhood with more anxious traits in relationships.
You might enter a relationship with someone securely attached and find that you are moving on the spectrum towards secure attachment.
Or you might have a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, and their distance causes anxiety, and you find that you move further towards anxiously attached.
Attachment styles can change with time depending on who you are in a relationship with and what work you are doing on yourself. Otherwise, they tend to stay the same. That childhood programming is strong.
Let me know in the comments if you have experienced your attachment style change and why it changed.
Love, Jen