I love this quote. I love it because so many of you from complex trauma backgrounds feel broken.
This makes sense because, as a child, you think that what happens to you is because of you. That you must somehow be bad or deserve it. If you were good and loveable, then this wouldn’t be happening to you.
This feeling of brokenness is often linked to deep feelings of shame.
There are different ways to hide shame. We might hide it by being the class clown, hiding and becoming invisible, overworking and becoming successful, or drinking.
When you have experienced neglect, violence, the mental health issues of parents, etc, as a child, there is pain in those places. Those parts of you are hurt and need care.
You can help the hurt parts of you in many different ways. One of my favourite ways to work with this kind of developmental trauma is with Internal Family Systems (IFS). It is one of the most potent methods for addressing and resolving deep hurt and shame that I have come across.
If you are interested in experiencing it, get in contact and book a session with one of our excellent therapists. The link is in the bio.
Love, Jen
