Why Do I Always Need to Fix Things Immediately After an Argument?

Do you feel an overwhelming urgency to fix things right after a disagreement? Does the silence feel unbearable, like something terrible will happen if you don’t resolve it right away?

In this episode of Psychotherapy Central, we explore the deep-rooted reasons behind this response, from nervous system activation to attachment wounds.

You’ll discover:

  • Why your body treats arguments like life-or-death situations
  • How past experiences shape your response to conflict
  • The pursuer-withdrawer cycle in relationships
  • Six powerful strategies to calm your nervous system and break the cycle

This isn’t about never arguing—it’s about learning to regulate yourself so you can respond from a grounded, secure place.

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