Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we were raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict resolution, and who were maybe disconnected from their body and sense of self due to their own upbringing, we need to learn these skills later in life as adults to become cycle breakers. Our parents simply couldn’t teach us what they didn’t know.
There is a considerable movement now in the area of reparenting. It is possible to learn to reparent yourself, to learn how to be present with the scared and lonely inner child who feels not good enough, rejected, and hurt. As we re-parent, we learn how to speak to ourselves in the form of the inner child with the greatest love and compassion.
Reparenting is, by far, one of the most powerful things I have ever done for myself. By growing the adult part of myself, I completely changed my life. I felt safer with myself than ever before, more present, kinder to myself and more grounded, which enabled me to put boundaries more effectively, be more assertive, and have better relationships. Know that EVERYONE can learn reparenting skills. It might be the missing piece of the puzzle for you.
If this is something you have tried or would like to try in the future, a great place to start is in my Relationship Cycle Breaker course. Click the ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker Course’ link here to learn more.
Love Jen
