A lot of passive aggressive communication comes from a difficulty with communicating assertively. It can be difficult for passive aggressive people to communicate things they think might be received negatively. They might find it difficult to: say ‘no’ put boundaries …
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How To Be Assertive
Unless you have grown up with healthy role modelling around assertiveness, it is likely this is something you struggle with. I have learnt to be assertive slowly. It was not role modelled for me. I still flip into aggressive (my …
The Benefits Of Being Assertive
Assertiveness is when we have a strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct, clear and makes space for the other person. When we are assertive, we tend to experience less anxiety and depression because we are able …
What Different Communication Styles Look Like
We usually end up having the communication patterns we learnt as children. If you grew up in an unsafe environment, you might have responded by becoming passive and being quiet to stay safe, or you might have spoken up in …
Anger Might Show Us Where We Need To Put A Boundary In Place
Anger is an emotion that is often a messenger. It is great to get curious about what the message is and if a boundary needs to be put in place. For example, if one of your friends repeatedly criticises your …
Assertive Boundaries Sound Like…
Once we know what our boundaries are, we need to be able to communicate them effectively. Boundaries can be loving and firm. Usually, if we have had poor boundaries in the past, when we start to put boundaries in place …
What To Say To Someone With Anxiety
It is easy to think that when speaking to someone with anxiety, the best thing to do is to empathise. That might sound like, ‘I know how you are feeling, I get anxious before interviews.’ For someone with an anxiety …
How to Work With The Critical Inner Voice
Does your critical inner voice make you want to take a holiday from yourself? Did you grow up with critical parents? What were the comments that you heard? Did you get: You look fat in that. Nobody values you, why …
How Fear Stops Us Connecting in Relationships
Deep listening involves: Imagining your partners world – Stepping into their shoes Hearing your partner – you don’t have to agree with what they are saying but take a moment to really HEAR them in a new way. Seeing the …
How do we Stop Arguing About the Same Thing?
Have you found yourself in relationship arguing about the same thing over and over with no outcome? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Research has found that 69% of couples’ areas of disagreement are about UNRESOLVABLE problems. …