Being comfortable being alone is a deep form of self-love. How can you love yourself if you never spend time with yourself?
If you jump from one relationship to another, how can you have the space in yourself to know yourself?
The foundation of a secure attachment is the relationship you have with yourself. This is why the first half of my book ‘Heal Your Anxious Attachment’ is about your relationship with yourself.
It can be scary to sit in the silence with yourself. So, start slowly. Start a hobby, start a project, read a book, go to a movie alone, go for a walk, or look at art. Find gentle ways to be with yourself that allow you to get to know your likes and dislikes, your preferences. Allow yourself to know yourself deeply. Then you can fall in love with you first.
