Understanding Anxious Attachment Behaviours 1) When I feel threatened, I get LOUDER to feel SAFE. This behaviour stems from a lack of attention and attunement in my upbringing. When I sense you withdrawing, fear grips me, and I resort to speaking louder, hoping to capture your attention. I yearn for you to understand the pain I’m experiencing, as it’s too much to bear alone. This understanding can be a game-changer, offering a glimmer of hope in our relationship.