They said: “Hurt people hurt people.” I answered: Not all hurt people hurt people. Some spend their lives making sure no one else feels what they did.Some break cycles.Some build safe spaces.Some turn pain into purpose. Hurt people don’t just …
Category: Personal Reflections
The Wait Will Make Sense Once the Right Thing Arrives
The universe is never late, just precise. What’s taking time is often taking shape. You can be in-between and still be in purpose. Not all movement is forward — some of it is inward. Holding out for what’s true is …
You’re Not Breaking — You’re Growing Wings
I sometimes wonder what the caterpillar’s last thought was before it was forced to let go into the goo of forever being changed. My guess is that it probably was not,‘I bet after this, I can fly.’ — Dr. Cassie …
A Father’s Day Reflection: To The Men Who Show Up
A few months ago, I did an intense spiritual cleanse to support my hormonal system. It involved fasting, meditation, and daily group sessions with sacred medicine. On the first day, I walked into a room full of women, and something …
What You Do in Private Always Shows in Public
What you do in private always shows in public. Reading shows in conversations. Your workouts show in your physique. Your diet shows in your energy. Your discipline shows in your confidence. Your focus shows in your results. You are what …
Raising Children on the Other Side of the World from Grandparents
I raised my children on the other side of the world from my parents. It wasn’t something I planned; I married someone from another country. Yes, my kids missed out on having my parents in the same city, but they …
When I Ask How You’re Doing, I Always Want the Long Version
When I ask how you’re doing, I always want the long version. In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the first 10 minutes. But that’s exactly what I want. Therapy is the place for the unfiltered …
We Aren’t Meant to Move Through Everything Alone
There’s a special kind of fear that hits when you get sick or hurt while living alone. That sudden awareness that no one else is here if I need help. Even if you’re usually strong and capable, that moment can …
The Gift of Slowing Down: Reflections from Vanuatu
Today we found these beautiful yellowtail clownfish living in a large sea anemone. They swam up to check us out and came right up to the underwater camera. Their anemone was far from shore, so I’m guessing they haven’t seen …
When You Can’t See How Far You’ve Come
When you’re in the middle of change, it can be hard to see how far you’ve come. The shifts might feel small, but over time they add up. Someone who meets you weekly can often see them more clearly than …