What is Earned Secure Attachment? Earned secure attachment is when someone develops secure, healthy relationship patterns in adulthood despite having experienced insecure attachments in…
One of the clearest signs you’re responding from an old wound is that your reaction doesn’t seem to fit the situation in front of…
One of the most important things to understand about trauma is that when we’re triggered, we’re often not responding from our adult self. We’re…
Your brain doesn’t learn that you’re capable because you tell yourself you are. It learns because you do hard things, survive them, and slowly…
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make in healing is trying to get rid of the parts of themselves they don’t like….
At 12 years old, I left my school on a council estate in England to attend a private school on a scholarship. I remember…
One of the most exciting discoveries in neuroscience is something called memory reconsolidation. For years, scientists believed that once an emotional memory was formed,…
Today someone said, “Worrying is the worst way to use your imagination,” and that’s easily the best thing I’ve heard all week. Like most…
Sometimes the strongest emotional reactions aren’t coming from your adult self. They’re coming from a part of you that was formed before you even…
Your youngest wounds don’t have words. If something inside you feels overwhelmed… panicked… or desperately alone… it may not be your adult self reacting….