You Don’t Have to Remember What Happened to Heal
One of the biggest myths about healing is that you have to remember what happened. You don’t. Some of our deepest wounds were formed…
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Sometimes Healing Is Helping a Younger Part Realise the Danger Has Passed
Today I had a strong somatic reaction that I couldn’t immediately make sense of. My heart was racing.My chest felt hot and tight.And although…
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Why Emotionally Distant People Often Feel the Most
Do people find you emotionally distant? Do they say things like: “I don’t know what you’re feeling.”“You never let me in.”“You seem far away.”…
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The Angry Teenager: One of the Most Misunderstood Parts in Therapy
One of the most common parts I meet in therapy is the angry teenager. And often, people can’t stand that part and feel ashamed…
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Why Many Avoidantly Attached People End Up Loving Therapy
Many avoidantly attached people end up loving therapy. Not because they suddenly want to talk about all their feelings. But because good therapy doesn’t…
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The Most Powerful Words in Therapy: “That Makes Sense”
The most powerful words in therapy are often: “That makes sense.” Not because what happened was okay. Not because the behaviour should continue. But…
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When Closeness Wasn’t Always Safe: Understanding Shutdown Responses in Relationships
The version of you that shuts down in relationships… probably learned that closeness wasn’t always safe. Some people don’t get louder when they feel…
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Why Emotionally Distant People Often Feel the Most
Do people find you emotionally distant? Do they say things like: “I don’t know what you’re feeling.”“You never let me in.”“You seem far away.”…
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Why Are So Many Avoidantly Attached People Workaholics?
Many avoidantly attached people are highly productive. They’re often the ones who stay late, take on extra responsibility, and rarely stop moving. But sometimes…
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When Closeness Wasn’t Always Safe: Understanding Shutdown Responses in Relationships
The version of you that shuts down in relationships… probably learned that closeness wasn’t always safe. Some people don’t get louder when they feel…
