Raising Children on the Other Side of the World from Grandparents
I raised my children on the other side of the world from my parents. It wasn’t something I planned; I married someone from another…
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When I Ask How You’re Doing, I Always Want the Long Version
When I ask how you’re doing, I always want the long version. In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the…
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They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask…
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When You Realise You’re Not Reacting to Your Partner — You’re Reacting to Your Childhood
There is a moment in therapy that changes everything. It is the moment you realise that the reaction you are having right now is…
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We Aren’t Meant to Move Through Everything Alone
There’s a special kind of fear that hits when you get sick or hurt while living alone. That sudden awareness that no one else…
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The Gift of Slowing Down: Reflections from Vanuatu
Today we found these beautiful yellowtail clownfish living in a large sea anemone. They swam up to check us out and came right up…
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When Valentine’s Day Feels Complicated: Growing Up Without Healthy Love
If you didn’t grow up seeing healthy love… Valentine’s Day can feel complicated. You might long for closeness and fear it at the same…
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Healing Your Mind Doesn’t Mean Thinking Positive Thoughts
Healing your mind doesn’t mean thinking “positive thoughts.” It means understanding why certain thoughts appear in the first place. It means noticing which ones…
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Can I Widen My Window of Tolerance?
The simple answer is yes. With time and focus, you can widen your Window of Tolerance. Why does this matter? Because the wider your…
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Simple Grounding Techniques to Help You Come Back Into Your Body During Hypoarousal
When we are in hypoarousal, our system begins to shut down. We might feel numb, disconnected, or start to dissociate. One of the best…
