Have you ever fallen into the trap of thinking that once you’ve “healed enough,” life will be perfect?You’ll have the perfect job aligned with your purpose, the perfect relationship, the sun will shine daily, and strangers will hand you money …
Tag: psychotherapy
Tools for Grounding
Having a go-to grounding list can be incredibly helpful when we’re feeling overwhelmed—especially if we have a trauma history. When we’re triggered, our sympathetic nervous system kicks in—hello, fight-or-flight. In those moments, we need simple, accessible ways to soothe ourselves …
Most Relationship Conflict Is Really About Differing Values
Ever notice how you keep having the same argument with your partner? Different situation, same theme—on repeat. Let’s take a classic example: money.Maybe you’re the saver and your partner’s the spender. When they make a big purchase, you feel frustrated—maybe …
How to Stop the Little Self-Betrayals
We’ve all had moments where we’ve let ourselves down. Times when we silenced our inner knowing, went against our values, or ignored what our body was trying to tell us. What often follows is self-judgment. But underneath that judgment is …
Research Proves Benefits of Gratitude
Gratitude has roots in grace.The word comes from the Latin gratia—linked to kindness, beauty, and giving. And when I connect with gratitude, I feel that beauty on the inside. I soften. I become gentler with myself and with others. Gratitude …
Signs Of Emotional Exhaustion
We’ve all been there—that place where we feel completely depleted. Nothing left to give to ourselves, let alone anyone else. Burnt out. Emotionally exhausted. When I reach that point, I’ve learned to pay close attention. It’s not just a bad …
Repairing Attachment Injuries in Close Relationships_Dr Clare Rosoman
I just loved this conversation with Clare about her incredible new book. I’ve personally had the most amazing experience in EFT couple therapy with my husband of 19 years. In this episode, I talk about an attachment injury that we …
Validation
So many of us grew up learning that love had to be earned by being “good,” quiet, helpful, or invisible.But true validation says: Have you ever experienced the healing power of being truly seen?
Deep Emotional Needs of the Avoidantly Attached
On the surface, avoidant behaviour can look like disinterest, withdrawal, or emotional distance.But underneath… it’s often a different story. Avoidantly attached people do have deep emotional needs—just like everyone else.They’ve just learned, often very early in life, that expressing those …