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Aiming for Secure Attachment
If you didn’t grow up with secure attachment, it can feel like chasing something that you don’t have a clear idea of. So, let’s make it real. This is the felt sense of secure attachment. It’s calm. It’s steady. And …
What Secure Attachment Feels Like
In a secure relationship, your nervous system’s resting place is in the ventral vagal state—a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with social engagement, safety, and calmness. The goal isn’t to stay in this state all the time. It’s …
A Bottom-Up Approach to Trauma
Top-Down vs Bottom-Up Healing When it comes to trauma therapy, the order matters. A top-down approach starts with the thinking brain (neocortex). Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a good example—reframing thoughts to shift behaviour. But here’s the challenge: when you’re …
Physical and Emotional Signs of Trauma
There’s no one “right” way to respond to trauma.Your response is normal for you—whether it’s emotional, physical, or behavioural. Trauma can affect us all differently, and symptoms may show up in many ways, whether the event was big or small.Most …
Causes of Psychological Trauma
Not all trauma is the same. And the type of trauma we experience can shape how we heal. Shock trauma is usually the result of a one-off, overwhelming event—like an accident or a sudden loss. It can cause intense emotional …
Easter Holidays
The sun is still out. We took a week off last week to take the kids up the coast, 5 hours north of Sydney. We stopped to visit family on the way up and had some boating fun on Easter …
Attachment Injuries with Dr Clare Rosoman
Last week, on the Psychotherapy Central podcast, I spoke with Dr Clare Rosoman about attachment injuries and just how wide-ranging they can be, and how they disrupt fundamental questions of emotional safety and trust. We then review the Attachment Injury …
When You Compare Yourself To Others, You Can Inadvertently
Comparing ourselves to others can be such a waste of energy! Let us first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, hopeful, as though anything is possible. …
What We Imagine Growth To Be
Have you ever fallen into the trap of thinking that once you’ve “healed enough,” life will be perfect?You’ll have the perfect job aligned with your purpose, the perfect relationship, the sun will shine daily, and strangers will hand you money …