Attachment | Healing | Trauma
The Nervous System of a Woman Who Grew Up Without Emotional Support
Too many women grow up without the emotional care they need. Maybe your parents were physically present, put food on the table, and kept…
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They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask…
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Can I Widen My Window of Tolerance?
The simple answer is yes. With time and focus, you can widen your Window of Tolerance. Why does this matter? Because the wider your…
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Simple Grounding Techniques to Help You Come Back Into Your Body During Hypoarousal
When we are in hypoarousal, our system begins to shut down. We might feel numb, disconnected, or start to dissociate. One of the best…
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Signs of Hypoarousal: Understanding Your Body’s Shutdown Response
Hypoarousal Hypoarousal is another defence mechanism. It can feel like exhaustion, numbness, disconnection from everything and everyone, or like you’re moving through a dream….
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How to Calm Your Body When You’re in Hyperarousal (Fight or Flight)
Hyperarousal is when your body goes into fight or flight. It often shows up as anxiety, panic, restlessness, feeling out of control, or wanting…
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Signs of Hyperarousal and Understanding Your Window of Tolerance
Signs of Hyperarousal Most of the time, we live within what’s called our Window of Tolerance — a safe range of arousal where we…
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The Window of Tolerance: Understanding Your Nervous System’s Comfort Zone
We don’t live within our Window of Tolerance all the time. When we’re inside the window, we feel grounded, present, and able to respond…
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You Can’t Go Back After Two Weeks and Expect Them to Have Changed
Real change takes time, consistency, and a willingness to do the deep work. If the same patterns keep repeating, it’s a sign they may…
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Are You Betraying Yourself in Small Ways Every Day?
Little self-betrayals add up. Saying yes when you mean no. Pushing down your real needs. Forgetting to check in with yourself. We often think…
