This is why we end up repeating cycles in our relationships. We unconsciously repeat aspects of our childhood that remain unprocessed in our current relationship—usually the most intimate relationship, whether that is a friendship or partnership. I love to look …
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Notice What’s Already Okay
Sometimes I notice that I’m over-focused on what isn’t working or what I think is wrong. It seems that all of the okay things vanish from my awareness in those moments. When I bring them back, even one small thing, …
A Powerful Quote From Stephen Porges.
Trauma is so much more than psychological. Trauma is physiological too. I am so grateful to Stephen Porges and Bessel van Der Kolk for their work in bringing this to the forefront and increasing our understanding of the impact of …
The Couple Bubble as the Secure Home Base
As adults, we need safe and secure places where we can come to be refueled and replenished. We venture out into the world, meet challenges, and experience things that rock us. Our partner is there for us at these times. …
Working with Limerence
When we work with our inner child, we are working with our patterns around limerence. Know that you have got this! If you want to know more about Inner Child or ‘parts work’, check out the ‘Heal Your Inner Child’ …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Responsiveness
Responsiveness is a subtle form of communication and is a love language. When you respond to me reaching out for connection, the connection is validated, and I feel SAFE. It might be the smile you give me, in response to …
5 Ways to Support Your Anxiously Attached Partner
Learn more about attahcment styles and how they play out in relationships
We Self-Abandon When We:
Learning to stop self-abandoning happens in the small, silent moments that often nobody else knows about. Learning to listen to ourselves differently. I have found inner child, parts and somatic work to be the most powerful to navigate this pattern …
Abandonment To Self-Abandonment
We might call this people-pleasing, but for me, this is deeper. This happens in the small but powerful moments when we: Concede in an argument because we feel them pulling away. Have sex, but our body doesn’t feel like it, …