To My Daughter
If children are first conceived in the mind of a parent, then I dreamed you into being at around 5 years old. Holding my…
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Complex Trauma and Dysregulation
When you have been raised by parents whose nervous systems are activated and in fight or flight all of the time, you will not…
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The Separation of the Body and the Mind
BOOM! And herein lies a fundamental problem. Enter Descartes in the 17th Century and the idea of the mind and the body being separate,…
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The Power of the Parent-Child Connection
As a parent, there are two ways to view this: With hopelessness. With the thought that you have already made too many mistakes. With…
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PTSD and Dysregulation
If you have been following me for a while, then you know I talk about this a LOT. Gone are the days when we…
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Connection
How do you let your children know you love them? I ask! I ask if they feel loved. I say, “if you were to…
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The Faint Response
Faint is the action of last resort. It is the result of total shut down and para-sympathetic activation. If this is a response you…
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The SUBMIT Response
We can only begin to heal from the ‘submit’ response when we are out of the abusive environment that caused it. Safety is the…
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Healing a Fawn Response
As adults, it can evoke a lot of shame as we witness ourselves becoming dependent on our partners and accepting more and more bad…
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How the Nervous System Can Get Stuck in a Trauma Response
I think of healing as a holistic process, including the nervous system as part of the mind, body, spirit triad. When we are stuck…
