One of the most underrated forms of self-care is giving yourself extra time to get places. An extra 5 minutes changes the entire experience and helps your nervous system move out of fight-or-flight and into regulation. — Dr Leah Katz …
Tag: Presence
Learning to Pause Is a Re-Education
For many of us, slowing down was never modelled as safe. We were conditioned to equate safety with movement — doing, fixing, responding, staying ahead of the discomfort. We learned to stay alert, productive, and responsive, even when our bodies …
The Most Effective Parenting Strategy
The key here is to be with your child without asking them to do anything or respond to anything. You are offering them the most precious thing you have—your presence and your attention.
You Are The Gift
A little gift to share on Christmas Day. As Christmas day can come with many expectations and disappointments, you might like to take time to take care of your younger parts before, during, and after the festivities. I hope your …
Being Alone and The Heart
When I am more connected to my heart, I am connected to my power. Not power as in force, power as in love-power. When connected to my love-power, knowing what I need and desire and which direction to go in …
A secure Home Base
When I was training to be a psychotherapist, I was not taught about co-regulation. I was taught about theories, CBT, existential practice, narrative therapy, person-centred therapy. I mainly was taught to listen deeply. To become aware of the parts of …
Want More Self-Confidence?
A few months ago we did a survey of our female friends to find out whether they would like more self-confidence or courage. The results were 50 / 50. Everyone had a strong pull to one or the other, feeling …