According to Psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski’s (@lewandowskiphd) research, going through these questions and answering ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will give you some insight into the potential longevity of your relationship. The more questions you answer ‘yes’ to, your relationship will likely …
Category: Healing
Needs and the Avoidantly Attached
You may take pride in lacking needs, which has served as a protective mechanism in the past. You are likely to have developed a strong sense of self-reliance resulting in independence and excellent capabilities. However, does your fear of depending …
Been Ghosted? Here’s Some Help
Follow @psychotherapy.central for more tips on how to do your inner work and form healthier, lasting relationships. With this practice, we can swap the word ‘ghosted’ for ‘triggered’. It is natural to feel triggered when you have been ghosted. Most …
Mother’s Day Quotes
Which is your favourite? Share the best one and tag a mother you care about (it can be you!). My favourite is the Chinese proverb, but I have two. Let me know in the comments which is your favourite. Love …
Why Do People Ghost?
I’ll follow up this week with more information about ghosting, including why it hurts so much and what to do about it.
”Outside-In” Referencing for the Anxiously Attached
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
Tips for Co-Regulation
Did you experience co-regulation as a child? What impact did that have on you? If you feel safe eto, let me know in the comments. Wherever you are, take care of yourself. Love, Jen
What is Co-Regulation?
It is possible to learn co-regulation as an adult from a therapist, caring friend or partner. I’ll be sharing some tips for co-regulation, so look out for them.
Co-Regulation
This post is for everyone wanting to experience more co-regulation in your life. Although I’ve given an example involving a child, the same principles apply to adults when their emotional brain takes over, and their left brain shuts down. Have …
Reconnecting with your Feelings for the Avoidantly Attached
When you have the avoidant adaptation, you likely grew up in an environment where it was not okay to have needs or your needs were denied, so you shut them down. As an adult, you may judge yourself as weak …