Why Reassurance Never Feels Like Enough

Have you ever been reassured, felt the relief, and then found the worry creeping back an hour later?

When we have anxious attachment, the fear usually belongs to a younger part of us. A part who learnt early that love could be taken away. No matter how many times your partner says “I love you”, that part is still waiting to feel safe.

Attachment researchers like Daniel Brown and David Elliott have shown that healing insecure attachment involves building an inner template of a loving, attuned caregiver. I call this your loving, wise parent. When your younger parts can turn to that parent within you, the anxiety finally has somewhere to land.

What do you find yourself needing reassurance about most? Share below if you feel comfortable.

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“For the first time, I have a sense of me being there for the younger parts of myself instead of looking to other people to make me feel safe.” E. Mellody, past student