One of the most important things to understand about trauma is that when we’re triggered, we’re often not responding from our adult self. We’re responding from the age the wound was created. A disagreement with your partner might suddenly feel …
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Why Emotionally Distant People Often Feel the Most
Do people find you emotionally distant? Do they say things like: “I don’t know what you’re feeling.”“You never let me in.”“You seem far away.” The truth is… many emotionally distant people feel a lot. They just don’t show it. Some …
Why Many Avoidantly Attached People End Up Loving Therapy
Many avoidantly attached people end up loving therapy. Not because they suddenly want to talk about all their feelings. But because good therapy doesn’t force vulnerability. Many avoidant people grew up learning that depending on others felt unsafe, disappointing, overwhelming, …
Why Emotionally Distant People Often Feel the Most
Do people find you emotionally distant? Do they say things like: “I don’t know what you’re feeling.”“You never let me in.”“You seem far away.” The truth is… many emotionally distant people feel a lot. They just don’t show it. Some …
Why Are So Many Avoidantly Attached People Workaholics?
Many avoidantly attached people are highly productive. They’re often the ones who stay late, take on extra responsibility, and rarely stop moving. But sometimes work isn’t just about ambition. Sometimes it’s a way of coping. For many avoidant people, work …
Why Avoidantly Attached People Often End Up Loving Therapy
Many avoidantly attached people end up loving therapy. Not because they suddenly want to talk about all their feelings. But because good therapy doesn’t force vulnerability. Many avoidant people grew up learning that depending on others felt unsafe, disappointing, overwhelming, …
Why Understanding Your Patterns Isn’t Always Enough to Change Them
You can understand your patterns… and still repeat them in relationships. Many people come to therapy already understanding their patterns intellectually. They know why they people please. Why they over-function. Why they fear abandonment. Why they shut down or withdraw. …
Why Group Therapy Can Be So Profoundly Healing: Reflections on ‘Group’ by Christie Tate
I just LOVED this book — Group by Christie Tate. It reminds me why group therapy can be so profoundly healing. One of the things I loved most about the book was how honestly she captured the terror of being …
The Part of You That Won’t Let Go Is Trying to Protect You
The part of you that won’t let go… is trying to protect you. It replays the past so you don’t get hurt like that again. It stays alert so you don’t feel caught off guard. It doesn’t need to be …
Memory Reconsolidation: How Your Brain Rewrites Old Emotional Stories
Healing is not only psychological. It is neurological. Memory reconsolidation is the process your brain uses to update old emotional learning so that your triggers lose their grip and your system begins to feel safer from the inside out. Memory …