Author: Jennifer Nurick

Jennifer Nurick is a Master's-qualified Clinical Psychotherapist, attachment and trauma therapist and couples therapist with over 20 years in private practice. She helps adults and couples heal anxious and avoidant attachment, childhood trauma and recurring relationship patterns, drawing on IFS, EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Jennifer is the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment (New Harbinger), host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast and founder of Psychotherapy Central.

Healing | Psychotherapy | Relationships

Feeling The Same Pain Again
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Running from the pain won’t stop the pattern from repeating itself. Your subconscious is trying desperately to heal; it presents you with situation after situation until you pause and get curious. Not in a self-punishing way but in a compassionate, curious way. Whenever the same quality of pain comes up in me, I get curious. “Ah, there it is again, that feeling of being unnoticed and unimportant.” I pause to meet that pain and connect with the origin of the pain. What unhealed wound is it seeping from? ⁣

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Healing | Psychotherapy | Relationships

Give Up Being Right
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Research in relationships shows that men find it more difficult than women to accept influence from their partners (see J. Gottman’s research). But, let’s face it, we can all love to win, and we are living in a culture that promotes winning. In a relationship, when one person is winning all the time, BOTH partners are losing.⁣

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Psychotherapy | Relationships

Having To Be Right
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has to be right all the time? It can be so frustrating. Even when there is evidence that they are wrong, they won’t openly say, “oh, I was wrong”, they will either continue to argue, avoid discussing it again or say that you had missed their point and they were, in fact, right. So frustrating!⁣

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Healing | Personal Reflections | Psychotherapy

Celebrating: The Importance of Birthdays for My Inner Child
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Each time I celebrate a birthday, it’s like I’m telling my little girl inside how special she is. She feels me planning for my birthday, thinking about what I would like, what will make the day feels special to her. She feels cared for and important to me. I feel a warmth in my chest as I write this. She feels my love.

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Healing | Psychotherapy | Wellness

Healing Dissociation Part 2
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Healing Dissociation Part 2

Dissociation is often a misunderstood and feared part of the system. Healing in a system with a big dissociated part means that we need to start with safety. Your life needs a foundation of current safety and a sense of felt safety in the space with your therapist. Creating this foundation can take a while, so it’s important to be patient with the process. Look for a therapist who has some understanding of polyvagal theory and how your nervous system reacts.

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Healing | Psychotherapy | Relationships

Episode 35: Unlocking Relationship Patterns
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

the pursuer-withdrawer pattern in relationships, a dynamic that can significantly impact relationship satisfaction and longevity. Dr. Ferguson shares her journey into psychology and hypnotherapy, offering deep insights into how these modalities can aid in self-discovery and healing.

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Healing Dissociation Part 1
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

I like to think of dissociation like a firefighter. When an internal alarm signals danger, the firefighter wakes up, puts on its firefighting gear, rushes to the rescue, and does what it knows how to do: dissociate.

In therapy, we can get to know the part that dissociates. Rather than finding it annoying or scary, we can be curious about why it does what it does.

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Dissociation pt 9: How We Protect Our Selves
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Exploring how we protect ourselves in the face of overwhelming or scary situations is essential. Naturally, we might react by freezing, fleeing, fighting, submitting, or seeking attachment.

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Healing | Psychotherapy | Wellness

Dissociation pt 8; Resuming Normal Life
ByJennifer Nurick July 18, 2024July 18, 2024

Resuming normal life post-trauma can be a vital step in healing, grounding us back in our daily routines and connections. However, when trauma is ongoing or deeply distressing, our psyche might create a protective layer, telling us, “It wasn’t that bad,” or “You’re just too sensitive.” This defence mechanism works tirelessly to suppress the trauma.

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Is Dissociation the Result of Trauma?
ByJennifer Nurick July 15, 2024July 15, 2024

Let me know in the comments if you find this dissociation series helpful in understanding yourself or someone you love. Wherever you are on…

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