10 Research-Based Questions To Help You Know If Your Relationship Has A Future.

According to Psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski’s research, going through these questions and answering ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will give you some insight into the potential longevity of your relationship. The more questions you answer ‘yes’ to, the more likely it is that your relationship will stand the test of time.

Lewandowski’s recent article in Psychology Today has a complete list of 15 research-based questions that look at different angles of your relationship. They are a great place to start if you are wondering about your relationship long term.

I love the first question, ‘do you feel that you make each other better people?’ When I think about it, all of the relationships I have been in where I have felt secure, loved and respected, I have felt that my partner helped make me a better person. And in both cases, I received feedback from my partner’s friends or family that they felt I made them a better person. This is not something I had ever thought about before, but it makes sense.

Many of the other questions you have probably seen and contemplated before. So, just for fun, I’ll leave you with my favourite: ‘do you feel your partner makes you a better person?’

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