Trauma can leave you believing you have to tolerate poor treatment because losing someone feels more dangerous than staying. Healing is the slow, steady realisation that your wellbeing matters too. You begin to see that the real loss is abandoning …
Tag: SelfCompassion
You Don’t Have to Hold It All Anymore
If you grew up with unstable parents, it is common to have a part of you that was busy trying to stabilise them. That might have meant watching out for them drinking too much or trying to be happy to …
If It Hurts, It Hurts — You Don’t Have to Justify Your Pain
If it hurts, it hurts. You don’t have to justify it. You are not being too sensitive. Each of us feels things in our own way. If something hurts, that’s real. It’s not overreacting. It’s not being too much. It’s …
Be Gentle With Your Protective Patterns
Be gentle with your protective patterns. They developed at a time when they were needed. Anger can be damaging — and it can be protective. Avoidance can hold you back — and it can be protective. Overthinking can be frustrating …
When Three Triggers in 24 Hours Brought My Six-Year-Old Self Forward
This week, I had a few things happen within a 24-hour period that triggered a younger part of me that says, “I’m in trouble.” I haven’t felt this part of me for ages, so it came as a surprise. I …
Healing Doesn’t Mean You Stop Getting Triggered
We often think healing means no longer getting triggered — but that’s not true. A powerful shift happens when you’re in a trigger and, instead of spiralling into shame or self-judgment, you meet yourself with compassion. You notice what’s happening.You …
It’s Our Choice: Punish Ourselves or Be the Parent We Never Had
“When we talk to ourselves, we have the opportunity to punish ourselves or be the parent we never had. It’s our choice.”— Jennifer Nurick This was a hard one for me. For years, my inner voice was harsh. I didn’t …
Healing Isn’t Linear — It’s a Homecoming
Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a spiral. A remembering. A return. Some days it feels like progress. Other days, like you’ve gone backwards. But every moment is movement. Every feeling is sacred. Every part of you is welcome. ✨ …