When the Anxious Part Takes Over
When the anxious part takes over, it’s because something feels at risk. This part fears disconnection. So it watches, worries, reaches — not to…
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When You Feel Unsafe, a Part Steps In
When you feel unsafe, a part steps in. Automatically. Instinctively. Intelligently. That part is a strategy your system learned. Listening to this part brings…
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The Part of You That Rushes Is Trying to Keep You Safe
The part of you that rushes is trying to keep you safe. The part that reacts is not the problem. It learned this strategy…
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You Don’t Need More Insight — You Need More Safety
You don’t need more insight. You need more safety. Awareness without safety changes nothing. The body must feel held before it can let go….
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Healing From Trauma: Choosing Yourself After Learning to Tolerate Poor Treatment
Trauma can leave you believing you have to tolerate poor treatment because losing someone feels more dangerous than staying. Healing is the slow, steady…
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You Don’t Have to Hold It All Anymore
If you grew up with unstable parents, it is common to have a part of you that was busy trying to stabilise them. That…
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If It Hurts, It Hurts — You Don’t Have to Justify Your Pain
If it hurts, it hurts. You don’t have to justify it. You are not being too sensitive. Each of us feels things in our…
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Attachment | Healing | Trauma
Be Gentle With Your Protective Patterns
Be gentle with your protective patterns. They developed at a time when they were needed. Anger can be damaging — and it can be…
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When Three Triggers in 24 Hours Brought My Six-Year-Old Self Forward
This week, I had a few things happen within a 24-hour period that triggered a younger part of me that says, “I’m in trouble.”…
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Healing Doesn’t Mean You Stop Getting Triggered
We often think healing means no longer getting triggered — but that’s not true. A powerful shift happens when you’re in a trigger and,…
